'Men think size of organ is what pleases partner'

Mumbai: The three-day conference on 'Healthy Sexuality Healthy Living' primarily focussed on explaining that real joy is "not between the legs but in emotional bonding that couples seldom indulge in nowadays."

Speakers from different parts of the country shared their opinions on sexual trends, behaviour among youngsters and newer techniques of treatment and counselling.

And it turns out that internet and pornographic sites are giving doctors a run for their money. An expert from Srinagar said that at least 35 per cent of his patients go to a cybercafe to look for solutions to their sexual problems, followed by a visit to a doctor and finally a sexologist.

General secretary of Council of Sex Education and Parenthood, Dr Sanjay Deshpande, was worried that young men in rural Maharashtra were more bothered about pleasing their spouses in bed, than satisfying their emotional and financial needs. "Unable to deal with the pressure, they go to commercial sex workers to better themselves before marriage," said Deshpande.

Based in Nagpur, Deshpande said that most of his clientele was from rural areas, including Vidarbha and nearby regions. "There is a tremendous increase in the percentage of youngsters in rural areas who indulge in pre-marital sex," he said.

But when it comes to ignorance about risk involving unprotected sex and methods of contraception, awareness levels are almost the same in rural and urban areas. "This is because we lack a holistic approach to sex education," said consultant sexologist, Dr Saroj Gumaste.

She insisted that intercourse was the least important aspect of sexuality.

But is education always bliss? Most doctors don't feel so. "More educated the people, more the difficulty to explain them about sexual problems," says Gumaste. "In cities, a problem between couples is that both start thinking about real and imaginary infidelities," she said. "In fact, studies have hinted that as many as 33 per cent men have sexual relationships outside marriage," said Gumaste.

The conference also dealt with the obsession of men with their 'manhood.' "Men think that the size of the sex organ is the ultimate tool for satisfying one's partner," said Dr Prakash Verekar from Nashik. He added that a method to increase the size, based on Atharvaveda and acupuncture, was a huge hit among a lot of men.

source: dnaindia